Thursday, April 2, 2015

Pain

It was a touch that saved, it was a hug that healed, Brielle a young, sweet beautiful woman whom doctors had given a dim hope for survival was saved by her sister Kyrie’s hug, known in the blogosphere as ‘rescuing hug’ some 19 yrs ago. The power of touch.

It’s physical but impact emotional and sometimes, most of the times what we need is actually the reassuring touch, that touch that communicates volumes, that touch that heals, that touch that gives hope and gives you energy to continue fighting, that touch that keeps your demons at bay. That touch that cures the pain. The power of touch.

Pain has a way of bringing out the best and the worst in us, pain brings out the ‘baby’ in us, makes one vulnerable, helpless and sometimes hopeless. Pain can harden as well as humble, makes you appreciate the absence of it and helps in shaping your thinking, pain is the catalyst for change because with great pain, comes great change. If you are not ready to change, then you are not in enough pain. Pain moulds!

Pain will always be there, some damning so damning that you wonder whether you will ever pull through but the most painful of all is the emotional pain because it touches your very being, your very soul, your very integrity. The pain of the heart goes deeper, it exposes your vulnerability, leaves you naked. Sometimes you want the whole world to see you for who you are- a hurting soul in need of rescuing, but there is so much pain in the world that only a few genuinely stop by to offer the rescuing touch, majority are curious and social media has made it worse. Who then I ask will rescue the introverts!
Today I want to speak to the broken heart reading this.
As humans, we’re wired to experience incredible love and affection. But for every action, there’s an equal and opposite reaction, and when it comes to the ecstasy of true love, that reaction is a gut-wrenching pain, a deep void of sadness, utter lethargy, and feelings of seemingly eternal loneliness. It even gets more confusing when you second guess yourself based on the truth that the emotion that breaks your heart is sometimes the very one that can heal it.
After all has been said and done, through the pain and through the hurt, through the storm and the rain, plant your feet, square your shoulders...and just STAND...
And to paraphrase the words of Gary Zukav, there comes a time when the pain of continuing exceeds the pain of stopping. At that moment, a threshold is crossed. What seemed unthinkable becomes thinkable. Slowly, the realization emerges that the choice to continue what you have been doing is the choice to live in discomfort, and the choice to stop what you have been doing is the choice to breathe deeply and freely again. Once that realization has emerged, you can either honor it or ignore it, but you cannot forget it. What has become known cannot become unknown again.
My dear, let your pain mould you, shape you, ground you. Use this experience to build a character, to build a humane human being, to give you a holistic view of your universe. Learn from your pain.